7 Steps to releasing the past and step into a successful and fulfilling 2016
To a successful and fulfilling 2016
To a successful and fulfilling 2016
Set yourself for success, happiness and fulfillment in 2016. As you look back at 2015, you might find that you have not achieved what you wanted…you are frustrated to be at the same draining job, same relationships that is not fulfilling anymore or you just feel stuck. When the New Year arrives, you may be trying to break free from the holiday fog of parties, gift giving, visiting guests, and a hefty credit card bill. And like many of us, you might decide to set your New Year’s resolutions, only to let a negative and defeatist attitude to take over. You might think, ‘I do this every year and I never accomplish much.’ The lack of enthusiasm you experience might be less about your goals and more about impressions from your past. Well 2016 can be different if you decide to heal your past and get excited about your future.
Before you start making that list of goals and resolutions, work on clearing past negative impressions from your year. It will help open the space for 2016. It is very difficult to work on your new goals when you are still carrying around emotional issues from past challenges.
Below are the steps to help you release any hurt and get excited about 2016. Take time to think through them and write them down! Inking is very powerful and you can always revisit them in the future.
- Make a List of What You Accomplished in 2015
Be proud of what you have achieved so far and celebrate.
Sometimes our minds focus on what didn’t work out. Ignore the bumps and start with the positive instead. Think back to where you were at the beginning of the year and list everything you achieved—even the small things.
Maybe you started a new healthy routine, formed a new friendship, or began a spiritual practice. List everything such as healing a relationship, starting a new job, paying off a debt, taking a new class or trying a hobby, volunteering, or spending more time with your family.
Brainstorm all these positive accomplishments and write them down. Post them in a place that you can see daily to remind yourself of all the great things you achieved in 2015.
- Make a List of Disappointments or Setbacks in 2015
Life is a roller coaster ride of ups and downs.
Once you’ve completed the first task, you’re ready to write down the disappointments or setbacks from 2015. List events that were directly in your control as well as situations you didn’t have direct control over. An example of something within your control might be, “I wasn’t able to stop smoking.” Something out of your direct control might be a death in the family. You don’t need to write down every single one, only write down those that which stand out or still have an emotional hold over you.
By gaining clarity on what did not work out, you can set out how to make them work in the future.
- Find Lessons Learned From Setbacks
Learn and grow
There is a reason for everything that happens in our life.
Take the list of disappointments and setbacks and go through each one looking at what effect they’ve had on your life. There might be lessons you learned through these setbacks. Accept your challenges as a gift…they help you to learn and grow.
A great way to heal from negative experiences is to learn from them. Life gives us tests. And when we pass the tests, we get to move on to the next level. Even if the experience is painful or still hurts, try to look at it objectively and see what you can learn from it.
For example, you can learn from the disappointment of losing out on a job promotion or raise.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself in this process:
- What could I have done differently to experience another outcome?
- How could I have processed this experience differently?
- Can I see this event from a different perspective?
- What can I do to better prepare for a similar event in the future?
- What is the greatest lesson I can take away from this experience?
These questions will help you find the gift.
- Forgiveness
To be able to move on, we have to forgive the persons involved. We forgive for ourselves, not for another person.
- Have Gratitude for the Lessons Received
Have an attitude of gratitude.
Give thanks for what you’ve learned. A sense of gratitude for life’s hard lessons tells the universe, “Thank you. I got it. Now I’m ready to move forward.” If possible, find a way to serve someone else through your setback or disappointment. You can find the opportunity to give support to someone who may be experiencing the same problem. Gratitude not only means, “I got the lesson.” It also means, “How can I bless another through my experience?”
- Let Go of Past Hurt
When I do emotional healing on my clients, I tell them write to people who have done them wrong or to a loved one who has passed. Writing is a great way to let your feelings out. After we write the letters, we either burn them or rip them up, and send the negative energy away.
Any type of ritual you create will help release the negative energy. You can clear a physical space in your home, buy yourself flowers, or get a massage. Self care is so important when you are healing past hurts.
To a successful and fulfilling 2016
- Be positive about your future- Dare to Dream and Dream big!
Create a successful and fulfilling 2016
The slate is clean and you can explore new possibilities with an open mind and heart.
Get really clear on what exactly you want. The universe can only give you what you want when you know exactly what you want! This is the law of attraction. Spend some time to think on all areas of your life…your finances, relationships, career, family, social life. Be specific.
Once you know where you are, you need to create certainty about your capacity to take anything you can dream about and make it real.
Write down anything in your life that was once merely just a goal, dream, or desire. What are some of the big and little things that at one time seemed extremely difficult or impossible to achieve or acquire? Here are some tips to set your goals.
Congratulations
If you have completed the steps, you are among those 10% of the population who are determined to succeed in life.
By doing this, you have gained clarity about where you’ve been, where you are now, and where you want to go. It also helps you create a simple plan to set up your new year so that it truly compels, excites, and drives you.
If you are struggling to let go of past hurt, please contact me and we can work out where you are stuck and how I can help you move forward to an exciting 2016. You deserve to step successfully and confidently into 2016!
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