Cutting Cords of Attachment
When you have a significant relationship with someone, a connection is created between you and the other person. A cord is connected between the 2 of you. A healthy cord is beneficial as it creates a healthy and strong relationship. However, problems arise when the negative energies enter the cord and start to affect both persons. Through this cord of attachment, patterns of emotions, thoughts and behaviours circulate. Whenever you think of that person you have a negative physical and/or emotional reaction, such as anger, fear, humiliation, fatigue, obsessive thoughts, hatred, confusion, love pain, and betrayal. You can see how these rob you of your happiness, peace of mind and even your health.
Cutting a cord of attachment helps you to limit how much influence the negative patterns of any given relationship can affect you. It is possible to be in a relationship without cording one another, in fact it is preferable.
Some of the most common relationships that are important to focus on are: Mother/daughter, father/son, husband/wife, difficult family members, past friends, past lovers, exes, past abusive relationships, and relationships with employers. Cutting cords to someone you’ve had a difficult break up with can be helpful.
So if a relationship ends, the energetic relationship is still there despite the time passed. And even though you may be physically separate now, you’re still very much connected to them energetically. So the same energy dynamic is going on (drama, pain and suffering), even though consciously you may think the relationship is completed. This can drain your energy and pulse your emotionally body, depending on where the cords are located. This is why many people continue to constantly think about their ex partner and feel the pain of past events.
When the ties between you and the other person are cleared, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a relationship with them anymore. Cord cutting doesn’t necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships. It just means that your relationship will evolve from a codependent one, into a relationship or union of higher love and understanding. Cutting cords doesn’t mean, “I don’t love you or care about you anymore.” It simply means that you are releasing the dysfunctional parts of your relationships.
Cords wont go until you learn the lessons the other people is teaching you. The very reason the person came in your life. Once you learned the lesson, the cord can then be cut and your relationship with that person will either end or just move into normal relationship…without the constant pull/push, drama, pain, suffering or love/hate relationship.
Cords are attached to the chakras of both people. Very often, the people you have had sexual relationships with are attached to your sacral chakra. The people with whom you’ve experienced conflict are attached to your solar plexus. Those who you grieve over are attached to your heart chakra. As the Practitioner I am able to sense where the cords are attached to your chakra and with your permission, cut the toxic cord.
Why do you need do cut cords?
- There is someone that you no longer want in your life.
- After a break up, divorce or separation…. when you feel the ties is stopping you from moving forward in your life.
- When you have end a relationship and having difficulty letting go.
- When you have had a major change in a relationship and you want to change old patterns or ways of interacting with someone.
- In current relationships where you wish to maintain the relationship but feel there are unhealthy aspects which need to be cut.
- Anytime you are transitioning to a new stage or phase of your life and you feel there are things you need to let go of.
What happens when you cut a cord?
Cords can leave you feeling drained, tired and down. And you can also feel a physical, emotional or psychological pain. When you cut a cord of attachment, you are lifting out and removing the negative behavioral, emotional and mental patterns that circulate between you and the other person.
Benefits of cord cutting:
- Improve relationships
- Energetic divorce
- Remove all that doesn’t belong to you
- Better energy level
- More control of your life
- Feel more empowered
- A sense of being free
- Feel a heavy burden removed
- Free yourself
- You can let go and move forward in your life.
Very often, I find clients in toxic relationship and they are apprehensive to cut cords as they believe their partner wont be able to live without them. They prefer to stay in the toxic relationship because of guilt and fear of what might happen. We each are responsible for our own life and our own happiness. When we take others responsibility and burdens, we are doing them a disservice as they then feel dis-empowered…it becomes a co-dependent relationship. Cutting cords in a toxic relationship empowers both partners and then they can decide if they want to stay or move on.
What happens in a cord cutting session?
Sessions can be held in person, phone or Skype.
We ask questions around- Is the relationship based on love, acceptance, and support or is it based on fear, security, need? Is the relationship contributing to your greater good as well as the greater good of the other person? Have the lessons from this relationship been learned and it is now time to move on? we will then the cut the energetic cord and I will help you heal the wound.
Be aware that the person who has been cut may feel a sense of loss and try to reach out to you. If your wish is not to reconnect with this person, then allow adequate time for them to adjust. We suggest you don’t keep in touch with the person for 3 days after the cord cutting to allow the healing to integrate.
Cord cutting is very liberating.
People come and go in our lives.
Some stay for a few hours, a night, weeks, months, years and then leave.
They all come with gifts and lessons. Cherish the gifts, learn the lessons and let them go.